The canal metaphor hit me hard. That moment when you realize independence isn’t the destination—it’s just a rest stop. I spent years thinking healing meant cutting off, keeping my world small, controlling every dynamic. Turns out, that’s just another kind of isolation. Real freedom is learning to stay whole while letting more people in. And damn, that’s the real challenge. This post puts words to something I’ve felt but never fully articulated. Thank you for this.
I can relate to what you're saying in this post. My new friendships are richer, simpler, stabler, more connected. And I'm not out here worrying about where I stand with them. Still yet to have a relationship thrown into the mix, but I think I'm ready
This was such an affirming post! I feel like I’m in the process of transitioning out of the independence canal to the interdependent sea and could heavily relate to the moment where you look up and realize you’re a fish 😂. Thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge and experience with us.
The canal metaphor hit me hard. That moment when you realize independence isn’t the destination—it’s just a rest stop. I spent years thinking healing meant cutting off, keeping my world small, controlling every dynamic. Turns out, that’s just another kind of isolation. Real freedom is learning to stay whole while letting more people in. And damn, that’s the real challenge. This post puts words to something I’ve felt but never fully articulated. Thank you for this.
I can relate to what you're saying in this post. My new friendships are richer, simpler, stabler, more connected. And I'm not out here worrying about where I stand with them. Still yet to have a relationship thrown into the mix, but I think I'm ready
This was such an affirming post! I feel like I’m in the process of transitioning out of the independence canal to the interdependent sea and could heavily relate to the moment where you look up and realize you’re a fish 😂. Thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge and experience with us.