“Thinking that a need is only about getting someone to do something for us, and chronically feeling like it's never enough, even when that thing happens, is like being dehydrated and thinking a shower will quench your thirst.
And that's because when we are stuck only noticing the surface level of our own needs, it's easy to think a surface level solution will solve it.
This is why deeper self attunement is so key to moving out of a codependent state of relating - we have to learn to tune into ourselves deeper and ask what the deeper need is.
And when we do, to learn how to get out of the shower, go to the kitchen and either get or ask for a big glass of water.”
-Jenna Dayle, Codependency & Relational MentorYou’re not needy or doing everything wrong. You’re just dehydrated and a shower won’t cut it.
If you’ve done the self-work, had the convos, and still feel unsatisfied… it’s time to go deeper.
In one session, we’ll untangle what’s actually going on and help you see how to meet the real need— the one beneath the surface.
💛 Book your session here. Let’s get you hydrated, not just near (but missing) the nourishment.
P.S. Once upon a time… I sent daily micro-reminder emails about relating, love, and codependency + personal transformation. I’m thinking of picking that back up for the Summer. Would you be in for that?!
Send me a message and let me know what you think about this!
